You’re falling for this girl and you’re hoping of escalating things but you’re uncertain of whether she feels the same way. It’s a tough situation to be in. Women can run hot and cold at times. This is why it’s so important to know the signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Trying to persuade a woman to be in a relationship with you when she isn’t ready or doesn’t want to will only get you brutally rejected.
Save yourself the unnecessary hardship and heartache by familiarizing yourself with these 15 signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you.
- She never brings up the topic of relationships.
- She becomes distant when things start to get serious.
- She doesn’t reply to your texts with enthusiasm.
- She’s mostly unavailable to meet you.
- She’s seeing other people.
- She’s still in love with an ex.
- She doesn’t commit to any future plans with you.
- She avoids too much physical contact with you.
- She just doesn’t like you enough.
- She rejects you.
- She constantly cancels dates with you.
- She doesn’t call you.
- She doesn’t flirt with you.
- She disappears from time to time without a real explanation.
- She doesn’t show any interest in you as a person.
Let’s talk about each of these signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you in more detail so you understand exactly how they appear in real-life situations.
1. She never brings up the topic of relationships
If there’s one thing I know with absolute certainty, it’s that a woman who likes you will never shy away from the topic of relationships.
Even if she’s not ready for one right now, she’ll talk about or be willing to entertain the idea of being with you in a relationship.
Contemplating and discussing the possibilities for the future is a part of human nature.
If you’re seeing a woman for a significant amount of time and she avoids any and all conversations pertaining to a relationship with you, it might be one of the subtle signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you.
2. She becomes distant when things start to get serious
Uncertainty usually causes anxiety and that feeling has the ability to make women withdraw from a situation.
A woman who is uncertain of how she feels about you will tend to put some distance between the two of you.
This could be a temporary issue that can arise from a situation of pushing her into a relationship too quickly.
However, if this is an ongoing problem and you notice that she becomes reserved, distant or cold when you try to escalate things, it’s probably one of the many signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you.
3. She doesn’t reply to your texts with enthusiasm
When romantic feelings are involved, you’ll often find women texting you all the time. Heck, even guys will sit on their phones all day with a woman they want.
Romantic feelings create a desire for connection and closeness.
Going for long periods of time without texting or meeting is not a good indicator of attraction.
This is even more apparent when her replies to you are short, uninterested and impersonal.
If you find yourself feeling as if you’re carrying the entire conversation and she doesn’t seem interested, it’s probably because she isn’t.
The longer this goes on, the more likelier it is that she doesn’t want a relationship with you.
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4. She’s mostly unavailable to meet you
Much like texting, women like to be in the presence of a man they like.
It facilitates the growth of closeness and feelings of love and fondness.
Attraction is also developed in person which is why it’s so important to meet and go out for dates together.
When I think back to my earlier years of dating, the women who were really interested in me would go out of their way to try and meet me.
In contrast, those who had a low level of interest would be unavailable or too busy.
And those situations usually went nowhere.
They’ll always come up with an excuse for why they’re too busy.
Work is too crazy right now, they’re not feeling too well or they’re unsure of what they have planned and can’t commit to a meeting.
Listen to your gut and pay attention to the signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you. It will save you from a lot of heartache and disappointment.
5. She’s seeing other people
Look, if a woman is dating or seeing other people while also exhibiting other signs on this list, she’s definitely not looking for a relationship right now.
I’m not saying that this is a deal breaker.
But, if you’ve been trying to date her for a while now and the spark just doesn’t seem to get lit enough, it might be time to face reality and accept that she’s just not that into you right now.
When there are other guys in the picture, there’s a lot of competition to deal with.
You have to be operating at your best often and that can be exhausting.
The problem with this is that guys become threatened by other guys and start behaving in unattractive ways.
If this is you, I strongly encourage you to slow down and stop trying to compete with these guys.
When she’s ready for a relationship, she’ll eventually distance herself from all the other guys and focus on the one she truly likes.
6. She’s still in love with an ex
Someone who is hung up on an ex will often find many reasons not to move on.
Even if they actually like you, it doesn’t mean they’re ready for a relationship with you or anyone else.
It’s far more important to wait until a person is comfortable with the idea of being with someone else because this avoids unnecessary problems in a new relationship.
Find out how long ago she was in a relationship, how serious it was and the duration.
This will give you an idea of whether she’s rebounding and just looking for some support before she musters up the courage to move on from her ex.
Generally, I would advise you to avoid rebounds because they fail and end miserably.
And if she is rebounding, it’s a sign she doesn’t want a relationship with you because she’s still busy mourning the end of her previous relationship and you can’t do both at the same time successfully.
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7. She doesn’t commit to any future plans with you
Committing to a relationship is one thing but not showing any interest in committing to future dates or plans to hang out with you is not a good sign at all.
She’s probably unsure of how she feels about you or doesn’t want to give you the wrong idea.
Women don’t really enjoy leading a guy on, especially when she can tell that he is heavily invested in her.
In hopes of you getting the message, she’ll use subtle signs of rejection like constantly being flakey about any future plans with you.
8. She avoids too much physical contact with you
When we like someone and really want a relationship with them, a physical desire exists. It may be hard to subdue that desire the more you care about someone.
You’ll always fall short if she doesn’t find you attractive.
The more she avoids being near you, the unlikelier it is that she wants a relationship with you.
On the flip side, a woman who cares about you a lot will usually enjoy being close to you in any capacity.
Even if that simply means brushing her arm against yours as you walk side by side.
9. She just doesn’t like you enough
Just because she finds you attractive and doesn’t mind spending time with you doesn’t mean she wants a serious relationship with you.
We live in a time when casual dating is popularized.
It’s not uncommon for a woman to get to know a man and share somewhat of a romantic relationship with him without that undying desire to be in a relationship.
I’m not saying that I agree with this but it’s a reality.
Just because she likes you doesn’t mean it’s enough to warrant a long term or serious relationship.
10. She rejects you
Some men don’t understand that rejection is not a challenge. If she rejects you, it might be time to take the message and move on.
Don’t settle into a friendship with the intention of trying to change her mind.
Months of your life will get wasted only to find that absolutely nothing has changed and she just doesn’t see you in a romantic light.
You’re wasting your time and hers.
Additionally, you’re setting yourself up for unnecessary pain, suffering and rejection.
Don’t allow your ego to fool you into believing that rejection is a challenge. Instead, focus on women who actually want to be with you.
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11. She constantly cancels dates with you
Getting her to agree to a date is all good and well but if she’s constantly canceling on you at the last minute with silly excuses, you need to take this as a definite sign she doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Don’t get me wrong, I completely understand when someone has to cancel plans due to an emergency or unavoidable situation.
But, when this becomes a regular thing and there is no real justification for canceling a date, then it’s something that I will not condone.
I just won’t bother making any future plans with this woman if I were you.
This is especially the case if she has flaked on at least three dates already. Wait for her to reach out and set up a definite time and date to meet.
12. She doesn’t call you
Apart from texting, a woman who can’t make any time to answer your calls or reach out to you is a woman who is not very interested.
How can you expect to be in a relationship with her in person if she can’t even take the time to talk to you on the phone?
Texting is not enough. It’s not real. At least a call is somewhat real.
If she doesn’t call you at all, it’s not really a good sign.
13. She doesn’t flirt with you
Not everyone is good at flirting so I won’t claim that this sign on its own is a big problem but when you couple it with other signs in this list, it’s a problem.
What’s important to note is her reaction to you flirting.
Does she get shy and or entertained by it or does she try to brush it off and avoid it altogether?
Additionally, is she actually good at flirting with men she likes?
If so, then by her not flirting with you, we can assume that this is a sign of low interest or low attraction.
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14. She disappears from time to time without a real explanation
I hate to say this and I’m terribly embarrassed by myself for behaving like this but when I wasn’t really interested in a relationship with someone, I’d come and go.
This is not uncommon behavior online.
People nowadays will appear and disappear randomly and for an indefinite period of time when they are uninterested in a relationship with you.
You can be certain that they aren’t doing this with the people or person they really want a relationship with.
Regularly disappearing or ghosting you is not a good sign at all and you should trust your gut.
This person is not that interested in anything serious with you.
15. She doesn’t show any interest in you as a person
Women are more invested in connecting with a man on a deeper level than men are during the early stages of courtship.
The more she tries to learn about you as a person, the more invested she is in the idea of possibly being with you.
But, when she shows absolutely no interest in your life, doesn’t ask open-ended questions, doesn’t try to establish your opinion or feelings on a matter and the conversation is generally superficial, she’s probably not looking for a relationship with you right now.
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These are all the signs she doesn’t want a relationship you should be familiar with to avoid getting rejected or ruining your chances with this person.
Be honest with yourself when observing her actions, even if it’s not what you want because it will only be to your benefit in the long run.
When you find yourself dealing with a woman who doesn’t want a relationship with you right now, it’s best to avoid the conversation and focus on ways to improve yourself.
More often than not, becoming better at dating and relationships through self-development will improve your chances of charming her off her feet and creating a stronger chance of love to develop.
It will take time and a lot of patience but when a woman is ready for a relationship, trust me, she’ll let you know.
With that being said, I hope you found this article on the signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you to be insightful and helpful. If you need more advice, head over to the comment section below and share your thoughts with me.