Belief separates those who give up on love from those who find love. I can attest to this. I have a friend who desires love but is hell-bent on giving up because he’s failed at it once or twice. His demeanor, opinions, words, and actions all reflect his lack of good beliefs, and unfortunately, it repels people. To prevent others from going down a similar road, I want to share a list of beliefs that will help you find love.
Good beliefs will inspire hope, strength, power, enthusiasm, and positivity. These emotions will get you through moments of extreme loneliness, and they will also encourage others to gravitate towards you, thus increasing the likelihood that you will find love.
The trick is repetition.
For any belief to stick, you have to repeat it on a daily basis, whether you feel like it or not. Over time, your thoughts will change, and these beliefs will cement themselves in your heart.
These Beliefs Will Help You Find Love
1. Self-Love Comes First
To have self-love means to appreciate, nurture, and provide for oneself. It presents itself as positive self-talk, belief in one’s own abilities, and protection against those who have malicious intentions. It just so happens that self-love is a precursor to confidence, which is a highly attractive attribute in both men and women.
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2. Openness To Vulnerability
One of the main factors that has held me back from finding love again is trust issues. Overcoming them may require understanding where they stem from, but at a certain point, I completely accept that I have to embrace the unknown. Finding love is risky because there’s always a chance that you’ll get hurt. But what makes it a worthwhile risk is the possibility of finding someone who would value and cherish a relationship with you. Embrace the belief that we are open to being vulnerable to finding love.
3. Patience And Timing Matters
Believe that love will come when it’s meant to, and being patient allows you to be more present in the moment without undue pressure. There’s a time for everything in life, including love.
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4. Past Experiences Teach You Lessons
To make peace with the past and to move forward, believe that past relationships, whether positive or negative, provide valuable lessons. If you can find and use these experiences to grow, understand your needs better, and refine your expectations, you’ll definitely find love.
5. A Positive Mindset Is Attractive
Nobody finds a negative mindset attractive, but more importantly, pessimism does not inspire hope or power. When you are single, hope and power are instrumental in helping you enjoy your life. I’ve noticed that just believing in the possibility of finding a compatible partner can attract positive energy and opportunities
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6. Authenticity Matters
Value authenticity in yourself and others. Be genuine in your actions and intentions, and seek partners who share the same authenticity. Like attracts like, and if you want to find love in someone who is open, honest, and trustworthy, you need to be authentic.
7. Personal Growth Is A Priority
The more you invest in becoming the best version of yourself, the more likely you are to attract someone who appreciates and values you. But it’s not just about attracting love from others. Personal growth is a process of building self-love. We gain self-respect when we attain our goals and stick to our principles. Since self-respect is a precursor to self-love, it makes sense to believe in the power of personal growth.
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8. Communication Is Key
Embrace the belief that open and honest communication is essential to a healthy relationship. Be willing to express your needs, listen actively, and work together to resolve issues. Too many opportunities for love are lost to those who fear communication.
9. Focus On Shared Values
Prioritize shared values and core beliefs when looking for a partner. Believing in similar principles can provide a strong foundation for a lasting connection and improve the likelihood that you find love with someone who is trustworthy and caring.
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10. Embrace Individual Differences
Feeble love fears differences. Embrace the differences in personalities, interests, and perspectives, recognizing that these diversities can enrich a relationship. If two people can love each other despite their differences, rarely can their bond be broken.
11. The Comfort Zone Is Dangerous
Believe in the value of trying new things and stepping out of your comfort zone. This openness can lead to meeting new people and broadening your social circle. The comfort zone may hold you back from finding love, and it may also destroy the spark that keeps love alive.