If you’re looking for a list of tips to make a man obsess over you, then stick around because I have some of the best advice for you. It can be so easy to make a man fantasize and chase after you but most women don’t understand the semantics of attraction.
All men tend to respond positively when they are faced with a challenge.
The idea of having to work for something makes us salivate in excitement because what we have to gain from our hard work is probably very valuable.
That’s how men think.
You don’t have to chase after him or give your heart on a silver platter to earn a man’s interest. If anything, he should be courting and romancing you.
So, if you’re sick and tired of getting rejected, ghosted or dumped and you want to make him obsess over you like he never has before, I urge you to study and use the tips below.
1. Be mysterious
Nothing makes a man obsess over you more than uncertainty stemming from you being mysterious.
Not knowing how you feel, what you’re thinking about him and where you are at times will make him fantasize and ponder about you.
During the early phases of courtship, mystery and uncertainty can stimulate feelings of attraction to the extreme.
As a rule of thumb, don’t sit on the phone all day and text him about your every thought. Save your best conversations for your dates and he’ll think about you like crazy when you’re not in his presence.
While you’re on a date, don’t constantly divulge all your secrets and past history unless he asks. Fling some questions his way and shift the conversation to him.
This will prolong the thrilling courtship phase to the point that he can’t get you out of his mind.
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2. Leave him wanting more
A great way to avoid boredom is to leave when things are going great. Imagine having a wonderful date with him and instead of sticking around until the two of you get exhausted, end it on the highest note.
When you’re away from each other, the last experience he had with you will be about that amazing date that was full of fun and excitement.
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I know it’s difficult to end a date when you’re having the time of your life. But, it’s a good idea to do this during the first few dates. If he starts calling you more often and tries to facilitate more dates, it’s a clear sign that what you’re doing is working.
By then, you can just focus on spending more time with him and things will develop faster.
3. Be fun and spontaneous
Love and affection develop through fun experiences shared with each other. We’re all trying to escape unhappiness and stress.
When we find someone who makes us cherish every moment of being alive because they add such depth, fun and happiness to life, it’s hard not to obsess about them.
Try to step out of your comfort zone and do new things with him. Let loose and avoid being a wet blanket. Most importantly, don’t be stuck up.
There’s nothing wrong with having a good laugh and being playful.
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4. Keep him guessing about how you feel
You can only be mysterious about yourself for so long before it becomes imperative that you open up more to him.
However, when it comes to your feelings about him, holding off and waiting until he shows genuine signs of interest and attraction will benefit you immensely.
It builds anticipation as well as sexual attraction. All of which will make him obsess over you.
When I started falling for my partner, I was dying to know how she felt. I could sense that she was into me but she held off telling me for some time. She played it cool when she needed to and this really added to the uncertainty.
But, we were so into each other that it wasn’t long until we both confessed.
5. Make him wait
If you really want to master the art of how to make a man obsess over you, it’s imperative that you learn how to make him wait.
Far too many women reward men for nothing and give themselves too easily.
What I’ve come to realize is that people mostly value that which they work hard for.
When something or someone comes easily, the perceived value is relatively low.
Make him wait for some time before being intimate with him or giving your heart to him. Don’t surrender your best self to someone who may not be deserving of it.
Play a little heart to get at first and by doing so, he’ll ends up fantasizing about you to the point of him obsessing about you. You may lose some men in the process but it will usually be guys who were actually only interested in one thing.
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6. Become the hottest version of yourself
To some extent, all men are visual creatures. You should always try to put your best step forward and take care of yourself as best you can.
Dress well, style your hair, use a good perfume, highlight your best facial features and wear clothes that are tailored for your physique.
Most importantly, be confident. Nothing is sexier than confidence.
What we know about confidence is that it stems from self-acceptance. Feed your mind and soul positive and affirming thoughts on a daily basis and it will gradually alter the way you think about yourself in a positive manner.
And the more you improve yourself, the better you’ll look and feel about yourself. The end result of your effort will be tons of self confidence.
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7. Surprise him with your intellect
Physical attraction will gain a man’s attention but it’s your personality and character that will gain his love and adoration.
In all relationships, if you want to remain happy and deeply connected, you must focus on growing together.
To grow as a couple, each individual should be focusing on self development.
By chasing after your hobbies and passions, it will reflect in your mood and mindset. This will directly influence the way you interact with him.
Once you engage him on a physical and intellectual basis, it’s only a matter of time before you grab a hold of his heart.
By then, he’ll obsess over you.
Ask questions, be curious, give your opinion and dissect a topic that he is interested in.
Most people like to talk about themselves – particularly about things they like. If you can engage him in a meaningful conversation about something that really interests him, you’ll become part of his interests.
8. Ignore him to make him chase you
When a man starts to lose interest or he takes advantage of your kindness and effort, the best way to reassert your worth is to instill the fear of loss into him.
This is of particular importance when he starts to feel like you are hooked on him.
By ignoring him for just a short amount of time, it will make him reconsider his opinion of you.
Entertaining the possibility that you may not like him or may have found someone else will drive him crazy.
Most likely, he’ll reach out and chase you a bit. I’m more than certain he’ll be obsessing over it at first. Simply reward him with your attention and affection when he makes more of an effort after you started ignoring him.
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9. Don’t chase after him all the time
On the flip side, you should not be chasing him all the time because this could make you look desperate, clingy or needy.
A high valued woman would not be chasing a man incessantly when he seems to be uninterested.
As such, it’s much better for you to find balance in your life and focus on other important things as well.
When you miss him, it’s okay to reach out. But, I can tell you that after giving a man some space to miss you, he’ll be thrilled when you message and call him or reply to him.
10. Be flirty and romantic
The fastest way to lose a man is to be boring and uptight. Where’s the fun in being stuck up? Remember, love is playful and fun.
Being flirty and romantic can truly engage a man’s feelings to such a point that he can’t get enough of you.
Tease him about something, touch him every now and then and compliment him about something you really find attractive.
In conclusion
More than anything, focus on having a wonderful time with him. Most of us get caught up in trying to achieve a specific outcome that we forget to prioritize happiness and joy. At the end of the day, nothing feels as good as happiness.
If you can show him that being around you is a source of true happiness, he’ll be obsessing over you like crazy.
Think of yourself as someone who is worthy of being loved and respected. Constantly remind yourself of that and watch how your behavior starts to change around men.
You’ll naturally start behaving in a manner that attracts men and keeps them interested for the long haul.
With that being said, I hope you found this article on the 10 best tips to make a man obsess over you to be insightful and helpful. Please feel free to leave your thoughts or questions in the comment section below and I’ll be sure to reply.
Please can I apply all this in a distance relationship?