If you’re looking for a complete list of signs your ex girlfriend is over you and whether there is any hope to get her back, then you’re in the right place.
It’s quite difficult to be aware of these signs when you’re just going through a breakup or struggling to move on which is why it’s important to have a list like this to measure against your ex’s actions.
By comparing your ex’s actions to the signs below, you can get a good idea of how she feels and change your behavior towards her accordingly.
Let’s take a quick look at these signs she’s over you:
- She has moved on with someone else.
- She no longer responds to your messages or calls.
- She only contacts you when she is sad.
- She treats you like a friend.
- She acts cold and standoffish with you.
- She is the happiest she’s ever been.
- She talks about liking other guys.
- She always makes excuses for not being able to meet you.
- She’s rude and disrespectful.
- She blocks you on social networking platforms.
If what you find is that your ex girlfriend exhibits a number of these signs, then there’s a strong likelihood that she is indeed over you.
But, thankfully, there are ways in which you can re-attract an ex girlfriend and we’ll discuss those tips at the end of this article.
With that being said, let’s talk about all the signs your ex girlfriend is over you in more detail.
1. She has moved on with someone else
From the position of someone who has just been dumped, it is not uncommon for exes to enter rebound relationships.
What you must know about rebound relationships is that they serve as a temporary band-aid for the pain of separation from a previous relationship.
Unless a significant amount of time has lapsed, relationships that immediately follow a breakup are rebound in nature.
They do not overwrite or erase feelings for someone else.
Be that as it may, if some time has passed on or she has gone back to an ex, it could just be that she has made peace with the end of her relationship with you and has found someone else.
The longer she remains in this relationship, the likelier it is that she has moved on from a breakup.
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2. She no longer responds to your messages or calls
People who still care about you and want you in their life, despite a breakup, may still take your calls and messages.
Unless you have been abusive or exhibited stalker-like behavior, she most likely will respond to you.
If what you notice is that all of your messages go unanswered and your calls are never returned, there’s a strong likelihood that this is one of the signs your ex girlfriend is over you or in the process of getting over you.
3. She only contacts you when she is sad
There’s a fine line between an ex who contacts you because they genuinely miss you and want you back after you initiated no contact in comparison to an ex who is just looking for comfort when she is sad, lonely or depressed.
This particularly applies to situations when your ex girlfriend is the one who ended the relationship and despite coming back, she doesn’t talk about getting back with you.
In fact, you may have come to learn that she was dating someone else or on the market and faced rejection.
That’s a telltale sign that you’re dealing with an ex girlfriend who only needs you to soothe her aching heart.
4. She treats you like a friend
People who still find you attractive and view you from a romantic lens will always have a hard time pretending to be just friends.
More often than not, you’ll be able to spot the signs that she likes you because it tends to present itself subconsciously.
If your ex girlfriend treats you in a completely platonic fashion and the dynamic is completely different than before, it’s considered one of the many signs your ex girlfriend is over you.
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5. She acts cold and standoffish with you
When someone you once shared a close relationship with is cold and standoffish with you, it can mean one of two things. They’re hurt and upset with you or they don’t have any positive feelings for you.
If it’s the former, then she obviously still cares.
But if she behaves this way with you despite making peace with the past, after a long time apart or without cause, she’s most likely over you.
6. She is the happiest she’s ever been
I struggle to find someone alive who claims to be the happiest they have ever been while pining dearly for someone they shared a romantic relationship with.
If all you see and know about her is happiness, then take that at face value. This is particularly true if she’s in another relationship or pursuing other things in her life.
Priorities change all the time.
She may be focused on building a new future for herself that doesn’t have any space for you in it. That as well is another sign your ex girlfriend is over you.
7. She talks about liking other guys
Women may try to make you jealous by talking about other guys or even admiring them but they will rarely ever claim to have feelings for another man if they’re goal is to be with you.
Many guys make the mistake of being friends with their ex girlfriends as a means to an end. The objective is to win her back.
Unfortunately, they mistake her friendliness and openness to maintain contact as signs. I’m not saying this is always the case. Sometimes it is. But, most of the time this is the conundrum.
If this is the situation you find yourself in or you’re in contact with your ex after some time and she is talking about liking someone else, believe her.
8. She always makes excuses for not being able to meet you
Someone who cares about you or has a desire to be with you, even a little, will come around to meet you.
In fact, a woman who is interested in you would push to meet. She’d want to see you and spend her time in your presence.
So, the exact opposite could be true. If she has no desire to see you and makes excuses for why she’s too busy, then she obviously doesn’t have a strong desire to be around you.
You’re not a priority.
You would need to examine the reasons why you aren’t a priority and you’re likely to run into a situation where she just doesn’t care about you enough anymore.
It sucks but it’s the truth.
9. She’s rude and disrespectful
Love and fondness cannot grow within a space of rudeness and disrespect. Those two attributes of human interaction have an adverse effect on human connection.
If she’s not doting on you, she’s probably indifferent to you. Which means, there’s hope because she neither cares nor does she not care.
But if she’s rude and disrespectful on a regular basis, then she definitely doesn’t care about you. And if she does care, then it’s not the type of care you really want in your life.
10. She blocks you on social networking platforms
Social networking platforms may be a wonderful tool for facilitating communication and connecting us with new people but it can also be weaponized in certain instances.
The ability to block people is one of those tools/weapons. Being blocked prevents you from contacting someone and sends a very clear message as well.
It tells you that the other person plans on moving on from you.
They don’t want to be in communication with you or they’re using it as a weapon of manipulation.
Being blocked for a significant period of time and proceeding a breakup is one of the modern telltale signs your ex girlfriend is over you or in the process of getting over you.
Tips on how to get your ex girlfriend back
Compared to every other method you can find, such as chasing, begging and pleading, the following tips have the highest rate of success when it comes to re-attracting an ex.
Unfortunately, there’s only so much you can do to win her heart. If too much damage has been done, too much time has passed or she’s completely moved on with someone else, then it’s going to be an uphill battle.
Be that as it may, the tips below are designed, by nature, to prevent you from wasting precious time in the interim.
So with that being said, let’s go over these tips.
Initiate no contact
No contact is beneficial to anyone who is trying to avoid chasing after their ex or doing things to completely ruin the attraction. It also helps you to move on and make peace with the breakup.
No contact works on both men and women. During no contact, you should not interact with your ex or reach out to him or her at all (unless you were the one who dumped her). You shouldn’t message your ex for their birthday or with festive greetings.
Unless the contact you, no contact dictates that you move on with your life.
There is no set time for when you should break no contact because it requires you to do it indefinitely.
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Fix the cause of your breakup
If the cause of your breakup was something other than infidelity and abuse, you have a chance of removing the cause from the situation and thus winning back your ex.
This is particularly the case if the problem was circumstantial in nature like the distance in a long distance relationship or instability from not having any ambition to earn a living.
Get rid of the reason for why you split up and your ex may be way more willing to get back with you.
Focus on what you can control
Everything other than what you do is mostly out of your control. You can’t make her do what you want, right? You can’t make other people to act in a way that gets her back.
So, there’s really no reason in wasting your time on the uncontrollable.
Instead, you can channel all your free time and love on yourself. By this, I simply mean that you should focus on self improvement.
So if your ex comes back, she will be blown away by your personal growth. If she doesn’t, then you don’t have to live with the regret of wasting your time waiting on her while doing nothing for yourself.
Don’t fixate on the breakup and start afresh
What’s done is done. All you can do is reflect on what went wrong, make a note of your mistakes or shortcomings and then rectify them.
Other than that, there’s no point in reliving the breakup over and over again, especially with your ex.
If you end up in contact with your ex girlfriend, focus on having fun and remaining cool.
The problem with that is you might have a hard time not acting desperate or insecure if all you’re thinking about is the breakup and your desire to get her back.
That’s why it’s a good idea to find a way for yourself to think about things other than your ex. If you can, you’ll have more emotional control over yourself when or if she comes back.
Find someone else
Crying over spilled milk won’t get you anywhere in life nor will it undo the past.
Instead, you have more to gain by finding someone else because chances are such that you may find someone even better suited for you than your ex-girlfriend.
Perhaps looking for someone else may even help you grow as a person and realize that your ex is no longer the type of person who ticks all your boxes.
The only way you’re going to move on from your ex is if you actually move on.
That starts by meeting new people and opening yourself up to the possibility of finding someone else.
I hope by this point, you have a good understanding of all the signs your ex girlfriend is over you as well as the actions you need to take to possibly get her back.
Being objective may be difficult, especially if you still care about her, but living, in reality, allows you the luxury of moving on and not wasting your time and affection on someone not worthy of you.
With that being said, please share your thoughts or questions on this topic in the comment section below.
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